Stressed from sickness, not sick from stress

Stressed from sickness, not sick from stress
One thing that really gets to me is when people think my mood causes my Crohn's to flare up. Whenever I say I'm not feeling well, inevitably someone will say, "Oh, are you stressed?" I'm stressed because I feel sick. I'm not sick as a result of stress. This whole attitude bugs me. It makes me feel like people think I'm just a weak person who walks around miserable and stressed all the time.  I am not and I do not. I have a pretty good life, actually. I have a wonderful husband of 26 years and two fabulous, healthy, happy daughters. One is 22 and in graduate school; the other is almost 19 and in her first year of college. I get to spend my days doing what I love. I'm a novelist, essayist and writing coach for seniors in high school working on their college essays. I have a group of warm, supportive friends who make me laugh and care about my well-being. So, no, my life isn't so awful that I create Crohn's disease for myself.

A disease, not stress

I try very hard to explain patiently that this illness isn't about stress. Crohn's disease is a medical condition, and why you go into a flare-up or develop a problem is out of your hands. I can't will myself away from it anymore than I will myself toward it. I went through infertility treatment when my husband and I wanted to have children Then, to
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7 comments

  1. The stomach is THE SECOND BRAIN.When I’m stressed come my cramps,abdomen pains,diarrhea and frequently I’m vomiting.I talked with my doctors and told me that must avoid ALL STRESS&NEGATIVE ENERGY all around me and, try to look at my life like to MOVIES.Have my remote control all time and when the movie isn’t good, change the channel.I changed my atitude regarding different bad situations and bad peoples and it works.I’m receiving from two years ADALIMUMAB and I’m feeling fine&happiest even my husband asked our divorce after 33 years of marriage and three wonderful girls. NO PROBLEM.

    • Tim Bossie says:

      On one hand I am very sorry for the impending divorces, but on the other very encouraged by your positive attitude. The doctor is right, although there are life situations where turning the channel is sometimes difficult. It is great to see that you are doing better. We at IBDNewsToday hope that it continues. Keep your remote close by!

  2. Dominic says:

    Judy,

    up until now I lived in the believe that stress – if not a causing factor- is at least widely known and scientifically proved influencing factor of crohn’s disease. All my former and current GIs mentioned stress as something to clearly avoid for crohn’s disease patients. Correct me if I wrong but your posts comes down to “you’re all wrong”. Doesn’t it?
    Don’t get me not saying that stress is the main factor just that it is one of the puzzle pieces that form the complex of crohn’s.

    Dominic

  3. Christine says:

    I have struggled with Crohns for 27 years. Been on all the drugs including chemotherapy and also has 22″ of my large intestines removed and was still not well. Lady year I started taking omega 3’s and they changed my life. Not saying this will work for everyone

  4. Erica says:

    I speak for myself when I say that stress is definitely one of my triggers (one that I am actually aware of). At times I don’t even realize that my mind or body is stressing about something, it’s just a part of life. Crohn’s is not CAUSED by stress. It seems nobody really knows what it’s caused by – hence we have no cure.

    I realize that people want to give me advice because they care about me – no matter how annoying the delivery, they don’t want to see me suffer. I try to educate them about Crohn’s, advise them on where they can find information about this disease, so they can become educated. Then I listen their advice gracefully- sometimes I choose to take their advice, sometimes I don’t.

    • Tim Bossie says:

      That is a great way to handle any type of advice Erica. We hope that those who care will continue to educate themselves to understand how you feel and what is happening with your body.

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