One thing that really gets to me is when people think my mood causes my Crohn's to flare up. Whenever I say I'm not feeling well, inevitably someone will say, "Oh, are you stressed?" I'm stressed because I feel sick. I'm not sick as a result of stress. This whole attitude bugs me. It makes me feel like people think I'm just a weak person who walks around miserable and stressed all the time. I am not and I do not. I have a pretty good life, actually. I have a wonderful husband of 26 years and two fabulous, healthy, happy daughters. One is 22 and in graduate school; the other is almost 19 and in her first year of college. I get to spend my days doing what I love. I'm a novelist, essayist and writing coach for seniors in high school working on their college essays. I have a group of warm, supportive friends who make me laugh and care about my well-being. So, no, my life isn't so awful that I create Crohn's disease for myself.