When Our Friends Get What We Have, We Must Show Patience

When Our Friends Get What We Have, We Must Show Patience
  So, in the past six months, I've had three friends diagnosed with Crohn's disease or colitis. Considering that so few people, relative to the general population, develop these illnesses, it's interesting that suddenly I know several people who, like me, are fighting inflammatory bowel disease.   I have offered to be their support system, their key to information, their sounding board. I didn't realize how hard it would be for me, as someone  16 years into her own IBD journey, to be in this role. It's difficult for several reasons. One is reliving my own diagnosis. But what's really hard is watching my friends make common "IBD newbie" mistakes in choosing their treatment, while just listening and trying to ask intelligent questions without bombarding them with too much information.   Friend Number 1 was diagnosed with Colitis in the emergency room about six months ago.  She was feeling terrible pain and had a CAT scan. The gastroenterologist on call diagnosed her and then told her to "just deal with it." He offered no solutions, no medications, no ideas. She was on her own. She did her research on the internet and concluded her Colitis was from stress and eating the wrong foods. She then started keeping a food journal, writing down every little thing she ate to "find the culprit." I begged her to go see my local GI doctor, explaining she would have to wait months for an appointment because this doctor is so well-liked, and that she needed to be medicated soon to get better. She resisted.     For the past two weeks, she's been in a flare-up. She's lost seven pounds and can barely leave the house to be away from the bathroom. She called my doctor finally and is unable to get in to see her until February. My friend now believes stress is not the
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  1. Sithu says:

    I understand your pin. I’ve been suffering for over 20 years and it seems that newbies are their own worst enemy. Suddenly, however, once they finally “get it” you become guru lady. That is equally frustrating because often your darned if you do and darned if you don’t. I always suggest that they discuss with doc.. etc… Then I pray or I pray first and then advise.. either way, I let God handle things because through Him all things are possible. 🙂

    • Tim Bossie says:

      That is so true. You want to step in to help, but many times your help isn’t wanted. Until, they figure out that this is much harder than they initially anticipated.

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