Letting Well-meaning Friends Off the Hook

Letting Well-meaning Friends Off the Hook
So, of course my friends all know that I have Crohn's. It's not something I hide. But I'm not usually forthright with specifics, mostly because I don't feel anyone would really get it. A couple of weeks ago I was taking a walk with a friend. We were talking about our plans for the rest of the week. I mentioned that I was going see my gastroenterologist for my eight-week checkup. (Every eight weeks is typical for me.) The next day she texted, "How was your appointment?" I thought that was very nice of her. I texted back, "The same as usual." And it had been. My doctor and I had agreed that I had no real choices to changing medications, but maybe switching the protocol I was on would be beneficial. He was concerned that I'd lost four pounds without trying. (Come on, I had retorted. Four pounds wasn't a lot. He'd countered by saying that I was too small to lose any amount of weight and suggested those calorie-boosting drinks that I don't have any intention of trying. And for the record, I gained the weight back in just a few days.) My friend texted back, "Well, at least it wasn't any worse. You're staying the same." I could imagine my friend, hunched over her phone, trying to think of something positive to say. I could imagine her starting to type and erase various positive, upbeat messages. She knew I hated them. I thought about what she said. I don't like it when people try to find a "good" in a "not good" situation. And I could have gone with reminding her of that. We've been friends for about 20 year
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  1. Emily says:

    So, for the record, Ensure and Boost can go wait until I’m an old lady, thank you.

    Carnation Instant Breakfast is a much tastier option. It comes in vanilla, strawberry, chocolate, and malt chocolate. You can even find it at Costco, if you are so inclined. Wal-Mart also carries it. If you find you like it, Amazon has it in stock and it may be cheaper with the Subscribe and Save if you drink it a lot.

    My mom’s been drinking the vanilla for years. You just mix it in milk. It’s a lot more sugary than the other options, so diabetics beware!

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